Sex, Money, & Power …Shhhh! Can you keep a secret???

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Sex, Money, & Power

Are your employees having sex on your dime? Of course they are! What is it about successful executives that bring out the very primal sexual and deviant behavior in the most intelligent and sophisticated species on the planet.  The office place is a breeding ground for short steamy love affairs. I just don’t get it! There is nothing necessarily romantic about the average workplace:  Bright lights to keep you awake, cubicles with very little privacy, commercial grade carpet tiles and a few offices for the select few who make the reins of management.  The space itself is quite boring. So, I determined, it is not the space, but the people who inhabit the space that bring it to life. Human nature. That tangible asset that longs for acceptance, approval, validation, gratitude and sex. If they can get all at the same time that would be nice. We give way too much credit to people.  This is why the office has given birth to some of the hottest love affairs of the century! I have several executive clients who ask my professional advice on this topic all the time.  I’m not saying that I know about this topic personally, but I may know a little something:). The story follows the same pattern: Traveling first class with the “Office Beau”, dinners at the finest restaurants, and 5 days of love-making sessions at 5 star hotels after work.  Who wouldn’t fall victim to this kind of corporate pressure. I call this the long-term employee welfare benefit they don’t discuss in new employee orientation. It just kinda comes with the job as you move up in rank. Initially, this phenomena can be seen as  benefit for some, but more than often can create a pattern of emotional turmoil for the executive and his family.

Sex, Money & Power the wake up call!

At some point, there seems to be a knock at the door of your conscious that says, “I’m in too deep; how do I get out of this? That pivot in thinking is usually generated by the lovers request to expose the relationship, take things a step further, promote them to a position they can’t perform or some other crazy request that made the executive say, “Are you out of your mind?” They then ask me, “How do I get out of this? My question back to them is, “How did you get into it literally? They respond, “I don’t know.” She is not that fine, she is not in my ethnic group, he’s a cheater, he has been with other women in the office, blah, blah, blah. But at the end of the day, you can’t stand to be without them. Most of the time it is  sexual energy that is ignited by leaders being on the winning team. We all want a part of the success and influence that comes with successful people. I have a 5 step process to get you out of this situation: You got it bad, so I added two more steps for you:)

  • Put God first. What would God tell you to do in this situation?
  • Put your family second.
  • PUT YOUR PAYCHECK THIRD (Your spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend will usually stay with you if they find out, but they are going to be furious if you lose your job!
  • Put the other persons professional interest and career first ( We know what is in their best personal interest and that is to be with you right!)
  • Create distance and space. Stop sex, text and all forms of communication outside of work. (The withdrawal phase detoxing your system. This is never a fun period.
  • Consider your professional career image.
  • Check the company policy on workplace dating. (Probably should have done this first)

The office romance usually ends in one of the three scenario(s):

1) They divorce their respective spouses, date a few years, get married and live happily ever after. (This is very rare, but I’ve seen it happen.)

2) Someone’s significant other finds out and sets it off on the job! ( Can someone say call security!) I’ve seen this scenario way too many times and it is not a pretty sight.

3) Cooler heads prevail and the relationship just fizzles over time. (I would say this is the norm.)

To avoid the above situation take my grandfather’s advice: “Don’t get your money and your honey out of the same pot.”

Cobra

 

 

 

 

 

 

Leadership Training

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LEADERSHIP TRAINING

Emotional Intelligence (EI) training for new leadership is a company must. Are those talented employees leaving your workplace or being kicked out by insecure leaders???

This article addresses child’s play in the workforce. What is Executive Emotional Intelligence? Studies are reporting that turnover in large corporations are hovering right at about 28 to 33% in some industries. Companies are complaining about not being able to retain top talent. Every company wants to hire great talent, but this question begs the answer: Can you handle, Oops, I mean do your leaders have the emotional intelligence to handle top talent.

Talented people come with a keen sense of self-worth and confidence. When we polled a number of talented individuals, we learned that the top 5 reasons talent leaves the company are:

Career advancement
Bad managers/management
Competitive salary
Family worklife balance
Lack of growth opportunities

LEADERSHIP AND PERSONALITY TYPES

Not all managers have the emotional capability to handle this personality type. As a matter of fact, top talent has leadership capabilities and look for solutions to problems. If that manager is not a secure leader they will soon be bumping heads on process improvement and how to get the work done. Let me define managers as people who handle the day to day operations, while leaders develop other leaders. Good leaders understand you can not direct or lead a group with your emotions. You must be willing to put your ego, pride, insecurity and all other emotions aside to do what’s in the fairness and best interest of the company. Firing back at subordinates for comments or suggestions and not speaking to them because they’ve raised questions regarding work issues may lead to the filing of greivances, lawsuits, and other unfavorable actions. I’ve seen extreme cases where the manager will just isolate and damage the talent so badly, that they just resign or leave on their own accord; take those million dollar ideas with them. Christians, the workplace can be a spiritual battlefield. However, in the Bible the book of Ephesians 6:10 tells us our weapons of warfare are not carnal, but spiritual against spiritual wickedness in high places, so put on the full armor of GOD when you find your self dealing with emotions or any other kind of unseen battle. ( the battle also might be within you…I’m just saying:)

To others you may want to come up with a game plan. Corporate politics can be tough terrain to bare day to day without a heartfelt reason to stay in this fight.
Warning to all CEOs! Pay attention to the turnover numbers. Establish emotional intelligence assessments in certain areas for new manager and leaders. Steps companies can take to retain top talent:

1) Survey your employees on management practices quarterly.
2) Perform exit interviews (I mean exit interrogations) to find out why people are leaving your company and put a plan of action together to address the issues.
3) Perform post 90 day integration interviews with employees about the job and its expectation with new employees.
4) Follow-up with 6 and 12 month self assessments of managers and diretors. Identifying EI assessment scores and training.

A wise person once told me, “Dont be mad at an incompetent person for having a job, be mad at the person who hired him.”

Cobra

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One man’s ceiling is another man’s floor

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In this topic of discussion what do we mean by ceilings and floors? I first define a ceiling as any physical, mental or spiritual configuration put in place to protect or shelter you from the elements of nature. A ceiling can also be used to inform the builder that he has met all the specifications and designs of the buidler based on a set determined measurement and the project is complete. By contrast, what do we mean by floor. The floor is the beginning of a new project it has no visible ceiling or ending point. It is often made of material that can support the expected load. So, it is safe to say, “One man’s completion point is another’s man starting point.” How can you tell if you have hit your financial ceiling or about to embark on new beginnings? Well, I think you decide that! This transition in life is mostly determine by your vision. Money is not necessarily the end goal, but it is one measure (there are others) we use to determine how much you will need to accomplish the quality of life you choose to have. For example, try this. I am at the floor of my financial journey. I’ve built my spiritual floor so my foundation is solid. In the next 12 months, these are the things I hope to accomplish if God wills:

I plan on a gross income of $500,000 this year; I am going to make these purchases and donations:

I’m going to give a 10th to my church family ($50,000)

March 2016 – Art painting of my choice $1200 budgeted
June 2016 – Art painting of my choice $1200 budgeted
September 2016- Art painting of my choice $1200 budgeted
December 31, 2016 – Art painting of my choice $1200 budgeted
June 30, 2016 – Purchase a new home for $200,000 budgeted
July 1, 2016 – Take my son on a trip to Florida $3,000 budgeted
November 2016 – Take a trip to Cayman Islands $6,000 budgeted
Oh yeah! might as well throw a car in there. Lol
In March 2016 – $25,000 for a new car.

If your financial ceiling is $70,000 a year it is next to impossible that these goals will happen for you without some spiritual intervention, but if you readjust your thinking and start to climb mentally, you will start adjusting priorities in your life to accomplish whatever it is you desire and have so much fun while doing it. You don’t need the approval of others just go make it happen!!!

A nude painting by Modigliani sold for $170 million — the 2nd-highest price ever for a painting at auction

A nude painting by Modigliani sold for $170 million — the 2nd-highest price ever for a painting at auction – Read at Business Insider: http://www.businessinsider.com/a-painting-by-modigliani-sold-for-170-million-2015-11?&platform=bi-androidapp

This Article was written by Dan Turkel and Associates Pess 11/9/2015.

The Business of Art . Later this week, we have a blog post from Lenard Hinds and accomplished artist and client.