Voice has Power in 2016!

My voice has power in 2016!

  1. What does this mean for you? I’m not talking about the sound produced in a person’s larynx and uttered through the mouth as speech or song. I’m talking about the experience that comes with having an opinion and expression about issues pertaining to your life and your well being! The ability to command things and they come into EXISTENCE!!!

Voice on my job!

I want more than a voice. I’m looking for a choice. Yes, a proclamation in matters as it relates to my job, working conditions, work schedule and pay. Oh, that’s just one area where I’m looking to be heard.

Voice in my relationship!

Relationships (Female’s voice)
I would like to go dancing once a month.
I would like flowers delivered once a year.
I like to travel and go on vacation sometimes.
I would like you to wash my car once a week.
Tell me I’m pretty and mean it!

Relationship (Man’s voice)
I want you to make love to me more!
I want you to make love to me more!
I want you to make love to me more!
I want you to keep the house clean.
I want you to cook sometime.
I want you to spend less time on your phone.
I want you to be quiet!

Voice in my community

I would like for my trash to be picked up twice a week.
I would like all new water and sewer lines on my block.
I would like to purchase the vacant houses on my block.
I would like to be the alderman for my ward.

I would like to be on the school board.
I would like to pastor a church.

I realized after many years of observation that having a voice that matters is for a select few. How many people would love to have their own radio shows, tv shows, etc. Everyone has a story to tell. It is about having power behind what you say and making it yield fruit for your life that matters. Oh yeah, and for those who have a distinctive voice and want to work as a voice-over talent you can go to: http://www.voices.comhttp://voicebunny.com or https://www.fiverr.com

What does the bible say about having a voice?

In Psalms 33:9, “For he spoke, and it came to be; he commanded, and it stood firm.”

In Proverbs 12:6 “The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the mouth of the upright will deliver them.”

In Proverbs 16:21 “The wise in heart will be called understanding, and sweetness of speech increases persuasiveness.”

See what I’m saying:)

Wouldn’t you like to have that kind of power behind your voice? I know I would.  Just think how humanity could benefit if the right people could have a platform to speak and move with power.




Sex, Money, & Power …Shhhh! Can you keep a secret???


Sex, Money, & Power

Are your employees having sex on your dime? Of course they are! What is it about successful executives that bring out the very primal sexual and deviant behavior in the most intelligent and sophisticated species on the planet.  The office place is a breeding ground for short steamy love affairs. I just don’t get it! There is nothing necessarily romantic about the average workplace:  Bright lights to keep you awake, cubicles with very little privacy, commercial grade carpet tiles and a few offices for the select few who make the reins of management.  The space itself is quite boring. So, I determined, it is not the space, but the people who inhabit the space that bring it to life. Human nature. That tangible asset that longs for acceptance, approval, validation, gratitude and sex. If they can get all at the same time that would be nice. We give way too much credit to people.  This is why the office has given birth to some of the hottest love affairs of the century! I have several executive clients who ask my professional advice on this topic all the time.  I’m not saying that I know about this topic personally, but I may know a little something:). The story follows the same pattern: Traveling first class with the “Office Beau”, dinners at the finest restaurants, and 5 days of love-making sessions at 5 star hotels after work.  Who wouldn’t fall victim to this kind of corporate pressure. I call this the long-term employee welfare benefit they don’t discuss in new employee orientation. It just kinda comes with the job as you move up in rank. Initially, this phenomena can be seen as  benefit for some, but more than often can create a pattern of emotional turmoil for the executive and his family.

Sex, Money & Power the wake up call!

At some point, there seems to be a knock at the door of your conscious that says, “I’m in too deep; how do I get out of this? That pivot in thinking is usually generated by the lovers request to expose the relationship, take things a step further, promote them to a position they can’t perform or some other crazy request that made the executive say, “Are you out of your mind?” They then ask me, “How do I get out of this? My question back to them is, “How did you get into it literally? They respond, “I don’t know.” She is not that fine, she is not in my ethnic group, he’s a cheater, he has been with other women in the office, blah, blah, blah. But at the end of the day, you can’t stand to be without them. Most of the time it is  sexual energy that is ignited by leaders being on the winning team. We all want a part of the success and influence that comes with successful people. I have a 5 step process to get you out of this situation: You got it bad, so I added two more steps for you:)

  • Put God first. What would God tell you to do in this situation?
  • Put your family second.
  • PUT YOUR PAYCHECK THIRD (Your spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend will usually stay with you if they find out, but they are going to be furious if you lose your job!
  • Put the other persons professional interest and career first ( We know what is in their best personal interest and that is to be with you right!)
  • Create distance and space. Stop sex, text and all forms of communication outside of work. (The withdrawal phase detoxing your system. This is never a fun period.
  • Consider your professional career image.
  • Check the company policy on workplace dating. (Probably should have done this first)

The office romance usually ends in one of the three scenario(s):

1) They divorce their respective spouses, date a few years, get married and live happily ever after. (This is very rare, but I’ve seen it happen.)

2) Someone’s significant other finds out and sets it off on the job! ( Can someone say call security!) I’ve seen this scenario way too many times and it is not a pretty sight.

3) Cooler heads prevail and the relationship just fizzles over time. (I would say this is the norm.)

To avoid the above situation take my grandfather’s advice: “Don’t get your money and your honey out of the same pot.”